3 Things Worth Noticing

The last few days I’ve been away on business with way too much time in my thoughts. Nevertheless it’s been a good opportunity to review what’s important for me to simply notice (and not necessarily to judge as right or wrong):

  1. The tone in which I speak about a person, place, or thing. My words often try to hide a feeling that my spirit just can’t.

    I say it’s casual, but my nervous laughter says it’s serious.

    I say I’m content, but with the added signature of sarcasm or sadness, what is it that I really mean?

    Luckily when I’m not keen to tune into my real voice, good friends have always been there to hold up a mirror. So when they ask me what’s really going on behind my self-scripted program, I get to replace the denial with the truth.

  2. What happens to my body when things don’t go my way. Although I’ve ID’d myself as a citizen of the world - always quick to find my groove in foreign places - recently not so much. Simple things like the time it takes to get seated at a restaurant or my struggle to read or pronounce literally any word in a place’s native tongue as been throwing me for a loop. My chest tightens, breath shortens, and I then realize it’s all about control (or my lack thereof). Even if it’s just for a second, it’s worth noticing that I’m not as evolved, as zen, or as patient as I once thought. More importantly, it’s an opportunity to be real about my shortcomings, forgive myself, and continue working on them delusion-free.

  3. How many (and what kind of) excuses I can make in a day. I’m sitting in a new place thinking of all the possibilities.

    I could create something significant here, but I haven’t figured it out yet.

    I could ask a local for a recommendation, but I don’t want to look stupid.

    I could reach out to someone I haven’t seen in ages, but they’ll think I’m weird.

    When you’re alone with your thoughts you’re bound to come across a lot of bullshit that simply doesn’t make sense - except to keep you aligned with your current perception of reality. I’m learning to be honest with myself about my attachment to the way things are vs. the way they could be, if only I’d get out of my own way.

What do you find worth noticing these days?

The Beauty of Being A Beginner

I’m not good at this. But I’m going to try it anyway.

I don’t know where to find that. But I don’t mind looking.

I don’t know anything about this. But I can find out.

I’ve never done it before. But let’s see how it goes.

I don’t think I can pull this off alone. Can you help me?

Starting at zero can be deflating for anyone, especially artists of a certain age who have already been through the ringer and have the scars to show for it. But making any sort of lasting impact usually requires a leveling-up leap we don’t feel 100% ready for.

Whether it’s learning a new skill, starting a new job, or attempting a new approach in relationships I try to remember the following:

  1. When you’re taking a risk and starting something new, any bit of progress is a 100% improvement.

  2. When you’re at the starting line, the first step is the only step that counts.

  3. Being humbled brings us back to our humanity, driving us to take a more compassionate perspective toward ourselves and others.

Mental Health Is Messy (and 21 More Thoughts for Mental Health Month )

In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month I’d like to remind myself…

  1. Mental health is messy.

  2. What it looks like for me to maintain my mental can be completely foreign to someone else. And that’s okay.

  3. Asking for help is a scary but good thing.

  4. I can support my friends, love my family, and self-preserve at the same time. Even if it’s from a distance.

  5. I can appreciate my present without hating on my past.

  6. Vulnerability makes me stronger.

  7. Opening up = taking a risk.

  8. More risks taken = more lessons learned.

  9. Reading a book is not the same as doing the work.

  10. Doing the work (especially the hard parts) is an act of self-care.

  11. And doing it imperfectly is still cause for celebration.

  12. Life is too short to feel shame about my process.

  13. Prioritizing my wellness benefits my work in the long-run.

  14. Relationships are the fitness centers of emotional growth. Play full out.

  15. Unhealthy patterns can be broken when I recognize them.

  16. Starting small is underrated.

  17. #TeamNoSleep is overrated.

  18. Don’t take unsolicited advice personally.

  19. Therapy is for everyone.

  20. I’m the only one responsible for my mental health journey.

  21. I don’t need to forfeit my happiness to pursue my dreams.

  22. When I love myself - there’s nothing to hide, nothing to protect, and nothing to defend.